Healthy self-love is one of the cornerstones of a good partnership, nourishing parenting and happiness.


Everything starts with you. That starting point cannot be found in the outside and even less in the other person. Only when you are at peace with yourself and believe in yourself, you can give in an enchanting and nourishing way: to your partner, your children and those in need.

This includes

  • regularly replenishing your own energy reserves.
  • lovingly caring for yourself.
  • taking yourself seriously, and above all,
  • knowing your own feelings and needs to begin with.

You can ask yourself some of the following questions: What is good for me just now? What advances me? Ask yourself that again and again over the course of a day, a week, a month: just pause for a minute and feel inside yourself.

Do I feel right now, in this situation, with these people, in this activity? Is this what I want and need?

In Conscious Uncoupling Coaching, I offer a special exercise derived from Tibetan Buddhism: the Tonglen Meditation. It leads us to the perception of our own feelings and needs. And, thus, paves the way for self-acceptance and healing ways of coping with separation.

Only those who take themselves seriously are taken seriously by the partner.
Only those who love themselves can love others.

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